In this life, you were born to claim your flame! The real reason you and I are here is to experience life to its fullness. The joy, the bliss, the abundance, the health, just to name a few–all of these human desires are within our reach if we are open to see the infinite possibilities that surround us all.
Pause for a moment to ask yourself these questions: Why do I struggle to find my truest path? Why do I fail to get the things I desire? Why do I often get off of my path? Lastly, why do things get into an endless cycle without a way forward?
If you can’t find answers to “YOUR WHY,” buckle up, and let’s find answers as we deconstruct some of the holdups that keep you operating at your lowest potential. Together, we can develop a plan to encourage not just a shift, but a total transformation. And, when you stick to this plan after a year from now, you will look back and know when life took off. You will be happy to have taken the steps toward co-creating the life you want for yourself.
Let’s first tackle a big obstacle: time.
Time management without time mastery skills is a waste of time. This is a confusing statement, so let me explain it further. How many hours are you wasting in a meeting that does not add any value to your life? How many hours are you wasting watching entertainment that does not add value to you? Or, you might be spending a whole lot of time brooding over something you cannot change and feeling like a victim, instead of arming yourself with tools that will help you improve your experiences.
People who fail to master their time see time as the enemy of their progress. They think if they had extra hour a day they would make big strides in life, only to find that they lack ambition. And that ambition fuels passion, which ignites action. Most of their time is wasted playing with their phones or gossiping. These are people who, even though they may not realize it, crave the victimhood mentality and a life of dependency.
Mastering your time is much easier than you think. The first step to gain mastery of time is to develop an ambition that will drive your true passion. For example, do you want to be the next greatest inventor or disruptor? If so, what do you want to invent or transform? Anything you come up with is important. I say this because at the core of our souls, we are all unique with unique ambitions. Now paste this one thing you want to see happening on to your bathroom mirror so that every time you brush your teeth, you are reminded of what you should be doing with your time.
Ambition is a key factor in helping you develop the time mastery. When you have a burning desire to do something, you will curve time to make it happen. You develop targets and deadline that help you manage the time you have more deliberately. The personal discipline you develop to reach those personal targets and the deadlines you set help you clarify and serve your mission. They give you the focus to avoid time wasters like waiting in a long line to go to some event that others have glorified as a must-see. You do things your way and get results. You build skills that propel you forward. And before long you are operating at highest pinnacle of your capacities—an inner place that is more satisfying and fulfilling.
It’s arguably true that the top, greatest performers guard their time fiercely. They rise early, have a clear daily routine, and schedule breaks in their calendar to rejuvenate so they can keep performing at their highest level. They have carved out time to work out three times a week. All of these things make them an “A-player” in their chosen field.
Now, I want to help you gain time every day. These five steps can add time to your day and help you to focus on the things that are important to you, which will add value and increase your enjoyment of life.
1.Go dark a lot. Don’t be available to overload your schedule. You need a few hours here and there for yourself to focus on the bigger picture. Block your calendar for at least 30 minutes every 4 hours for solitude, turn off the phone and refuse the urge to squeeze in an appointment. In this time of solitude, connect with your true genius. Also, you can use this time to bring to the surface the emotions that you will feel when that ambition you are working toward is completed.
You are born to make waves and cause positive changes. But you can only attain this when you are at flow state. Flow state is achievable when you have quieted your mind and are free of distractions. In flow state, the brain’s wavelength drops into theta brain waves, which connects you to the field of infinite possibilities. Here you will gain clarity and ideas that help you operate at the highest potential.
2.Say no more often! Sometimes you may be faced with a dilemma of trying to fit in with other people, and in the effort to fit in, you develop the tendency to say yes to everything that is asked of you. The problem here is you are fueling other people’s dreams, either because you have none for yourself—or you think you are a superhuman who can handle everything. The ego may rob your genuine ambition in exchange for the accolade that will be given for being there whenever anyone needs you. The question is, when you can’t be there, will this cause you to feel you had wasted your time?
People who are performing at their highest level of their potential have learned to say no to anything that does not advance their projects to express their greatest genius. I leave this point with great advice once given to me: Always say no or a maybe and think it through before you say yes.
3.Keep a calendar with the deadlines for the things that will advance the expression of what you truly desire. If you do not schedule these priorities and you just want to wing it, your ambitions will never happen. Check your goals off as you go and revise them often. In my book, Say I Can: Be a Deliberate Co-Creator of Your Own Life, I explained how every day I wrote a daily goal and revised it every evening. This daily goal was part of a well-planned strategy to achieve a long-term goal that I wanted to experience. It also helps to set aside a day at the end of the week to monitor progress and celebrate any milestones.
4.Surround yourself with positive, vibrant people who will help you advance in the direction of your targets. This calls for letting go of some friends and other time wasters like phones, endless social media sessions, an addiction to news—everything that doesn’t add any value to you. If you are on the race that you want to win, you don’t want to run with someone who is slowing you down. Instead, you want to run beside the person who is experienced or who is pacing up strong, continuing to build momentum. Likewise, in the game of life, you want to surround yourself with positive people, great teachers and high performers. These are people who will understand you and offer a heck lot of advice.
5.Keep your energy stamina the highest by scheduling daily exercises to power up the body and the mind. Science has proven that there is a direct correlation between peak performance and routine exercises. A powerful mind is more creative, more receptive and more aligned to the field of infinite possibilities, and this can be attained by maintaining great health and physical fitness. I have written a whole chapter on this in my book, Say I Can: Be a Deliberate Co-Creator of Your Own Life.
These five steps will help you become the highest performer, someone who has a strategy to make their desired things become a reality. You will gain time and increase productivity. And one year later, you will be relish the effort. And when you keep mastering your time, soon you will be the hero or heroine that so many will aspire to become. You are the flame that brightens our planet one soul at a time!
Article written by Mercy Njenga, Author Say I Can: Be a Deliberate Cocreator of Your Own Life